Exercise

In this exercise, the author asks the reader to dig deep and discover what their "bottom lines" are.

If my partner:

• cheated on me
• physically abused me
• kept a vitally important secret (such as taking drugs, quitting work, etc)
• wanted to swing/have a threesome/experiment with other people.

then I'd feel I'd have to leave the relationship.

If my partner didn't:

• want to commit to me
• want to have children
• support my career aspirations

then I'd feel I'd have to leave the relationship.

If these things were true about my partner:

• He didn't contribute fairly to our relationship

then I'd feel I'd have to leave the relationship.